You have found your hookup buddy through Instafuckfriend. Before you start congratulating yourself, ask yourself if you are feeling for this girl.
The answer to your question may be no, even if you hesitated. The pesky romantic feelings are what can ruin a good fuck friend relationship.
Both parties should be able to understand that it is all about sex- without any relationship.
These signs will help you determine if you are genuinely interested in your hookup buddy.
1. You can’t stop thinking about her
Do you get up every morning to send your friend a “good morning beautiful” message? Do you check Instagram constantly to see her latest story?
Maybe you find yourself daydreaming about the last time you met.
You may be feeling the effects of these feelings if you answer yes to any one of these questions.
2. She is the one you spend all of your spare time with
You’re tired of working hard and want to unwind and enjoy a movie.
Invite your friend-with benefits over. Perhaps she stays the night. The next morning, you make breakfast together and then you relax all day. You’re soon having brunch together on Sunday morning.
Stop right there. If you have reached the brunch stage, then you are in serious trouble . Netflix and chill are one thing. Sunday brunch is another.
3. Conversations are getting deeper
This normal fuck friend conversation should look something like this.
You: “U up?”
Her: “Yup ;)”
You: “Come over”
Her: “OMW’
Boom! That’s it. Asking her about her day will show you care more than you think.
It is natural to get to know one another. However, if you find yourself sharing your darkest secrets and most important life goals, it is a sign you have become very comfortable with her.
4. You miss her when you’re not together
This is a huge one. This is not about her missing out on a good time in the hay.
It’s not about feeling empty or like you’re missing something.
Ok, Megan is not her real name, but you get the idea. If you feel lonely , then I have good news: You caught feelings.
5. Your Tinder App is Collecting Dust
Do you remember that little orange app on the side of your phone? The one with the little flame icon on the top? Tinder is the magical land where girls can be DTF and nudes are free .
Chances are you care about your hookup buddy if you last used this app.
If you suddenly feel the need to date other people, it’s a sign that you really like her.
6. You Hold Hands
It’s possible to find yourself wanting to touch her, even if it’s not for sex. You might try to touch her shoulder or hold hands.
If you are holding hands, you have just purchased a one-way ticket for a monogamous relationship.
7. You planned a weekend trip
This one, my friend is the final nail in the coffin. The infamous weekend-trip. A weekend trip can often be the first step in a serious relationship, regardless of whether you realize it or not.
You may want to find a girlfriend if you are looking to plan a romantic getaway for you and your friend.
It’s amazing, think about it. You will both be staying in a “cute AirBnB” and enjoying fine dining at great restaurants while exploring the city. Even if you think otherwise, everyone will be able to see you as a couple.
8. Take the time to analyze everything you say to her
That feeling is common . You can’t stop thinking about what you said that night. You are now worried that she might think you’re crazy.
This is a thought we’ve all had before. This means that you care about her far more than you might think.
9. At Her Worst, You Will Not Mind her
There is no perfect person and sometimes life can be difficult. This is true even for your fuck friend. You’re more likely to see a less sexy situation the longer you spend together.
Perhaps she was having a rough day at work, or maybe there is family drama. It doesn’t matter what, it will likely affect the quality of your time together.
You’ve probably seen her at her worst and not bat an eye.
10. You get jealous
The green-eyed monster is not something anyone likes, but sometimes it comes out of nowhere. On Snapchat, your fuck friend is seen with some man.
Remind yourself that this is casual, no strings attached. You can do what you want.
You should be jealous of your buddy who spends time with another.
12. The Club Doesn’t Have the Same Appeal
A weekend with the guys was what you lived for. You went to the most popular clubs and met the hottest girls. The club could be relied upon to help you through difficult times.
Now, things are different. You no longer feel the need to dance with the cute girl when you go to the club. You’d much rather be at home with someone you love. You may find yourself making excuses to leave early.
This is pretty obvious.
13. You’re acting a little…creepy
You notice that she has left her scarf at your house the last time she visited. You pick it up and hang it at the door. Perhaps you give her a sniff.
It’s also what people do when someone is missing or cares about them.
You might be scrolling innocently through her Instagram account and next thing you know you are at her first post…from 2012.
There’s only one reason why you might be doing strange things. You have feelings.
14. Tell Your Friends About Her
You’re likely to bring her up with your friends in conversions. If they find out her name is Megan, and that she is a teacher who enjoys hiking, then you have a problem.
Your friends may already be aware that you are a failure before you realize it.
15. If she doesn’t text you back, you get upset
This one could be a shock if you didn’t know you were feeling the feelings. You probably have become accustomed to the morning text.
You worry that she isn’t interested in you anymore. Maybe she has a boyfriend! You feel bad in your stomach.
This, my friend is a sign that you care more about her than just casual hookups.
16. You Put Hoes First Before Bros
This one is the last because, if it starts happening, congratulations! Bros before hoes is the cardinal rule. It’s the rule that all other rules are derived from.
When it comes down to the matter, you will choose to go on a date with your girlfriend instead of playing poker with the guys.
While it’s fine to go out with the group and have a spontaneous date, you now spend every weekend with your “fuck friend”.
You care about this girl and it’s time to make a difference.
Summary
It happens to all of us. You’re one minute and you’re the next. You think you have it all. It’s a quick and easy way to get some cash without the stress of a relationship.
You find yourself wishing that she is always there, and the dates become more complicated.
Don’t be ashamed if you feel for your hookup buddy.
Perhaps she feels the exact same way. If not, maybe it is time to move on.